Monthly Archive for December, 2009

Resolution No. 3: I will not be afraid of color.

Ringing in the New Year can be especially stressful for women; we do tend to be chronic people-pleasers and focus toomuch on resolutions. All of the energy generated from plotting out the pounds we plan to lose, books we will read, salads we will eat, the kind of men we will date next year, the men we swear we won’t date next year, and giving up everything from smoking to skittles could generate an alternate energy source for the entire western hemisphere.

This even extends to how we dress for New Year’s Eve. Suddenly the queen of the soccer t-shirts from days of yore will roam the earth for a night in precariously high stilettos and a dress that would make a Kardashian blush, all in the name of champagne, dropping a sparkly crystal ball from the sky at midnight, and acting like a completely different person – definitely for the night, and at least for a month or two. Alas, old habits return to their usual throne.  Let’s make a new resolution for tonight:  instead of spending our energy trying to become something completely different, let’s focus on being a shinier version of ourselves at our best – for New Year’s Eve and the rest of the year.  

Resolution No.1:  I will not be upset that I am not Gisele, Audrey Hepburn, Beyonce, Halle, Sophia Loren… (you get the idea), nor will I try to impersonate any of the aforementioned parties.  

 

Hot look, but a little out of place at your average New Year's festivities.

Hot look, but a little out of place at your average New Year's festivities.

Of course borrowing inspiration from classic iconic style is a great way to put together a New Year’s Eve party look, but if you don’t normally walk around like Liza Minelli, there’s no reason to start the year a Cabaret. Wouldn’t you rather people want to impersonate you for your own great style?   Use your minds ladies, be creative!  Find one special thing to be the star of your outfit and build a style around it.  You can’t expect the clothes on the rack to do all the work, right?

Resolution No. 2:  I will not look at the size on the tag; it has no power over me.  I will look in the mirror and choose honestly what looks best on me, wear it, and happily accept the compliments.

Yes, the shoes are cute. And yes, the skin-tight dress is sexy, in a really obvious way.  However, if you can’t walk, breathe, or eat normally, you won’t look cute, sexy, or hot. Fit is not only a comfort thing, it’s essential to making clothes look good; while it’s okay to aspire to be a size whatever in a reasonable amount of time later in the year, if you aren’t that size now, don’t wear it.  And don’t sweat it.  You will look thinner wearing something that actually fits.  

Balance a fitted pencil skirt with a cinched-waist floaty top in a silk charmeuse or rayon blend.  Or wear a skirt with volume with a strapless top or delicate and simple cami.  It’s all about balance.  Pick the part of you that you feel needs some slimming, and wear some volume above or below it – but don’t cover your widest part with volume, or you will accentuate the proportional imbalance you’re trying to hide.

 

Now THAT is how to wear a full skirt!

Now THAT is how to wear a full skirt!

Resolution No. 3:  I will not be afraid of color or shiny things.

For goodness sakes, Saffron Yellow and Peacock Green don’t bite!  New Year’s Eve is a great time to try a bright color as long as it flatters the undertones in your skin and hair — just think how you will stand out in a sea of black, white and “safe” colors. 

Sequins, beads, and shiny things are also not tacky in the proper proportion.  We promise.  Appropriately placed sparkle is festive and perfect for ringing in the new year.  Make sure to play with textures; wear a luscious satin top with a beaded neckline with jeans and pearl leather shoes (thrown on a slouchy wool cardigan for even more texture contrast).  If you have on a matte fabric dress, try wearing a cropped jacket in a winter white fur (faux or otherwise, your call) and try some leggings or tights with a sheen and some crocodile pumps.  Basically, toss out the rules, and TRY IT ON.  It is the layering of different textures, lengths and patterns that makes an outfit not only personal and interesting, but WARM…it’s much less likely that you’ll get a New Year’s kiss with chattering teeth.

This article brought to you by Winston-Salem’s funkiest shopgirl, Hillary Norman.

Post-holiday blues? Let bevello help…

Santa came. And went. 

And all you’re left with is broken ornament shards ground into the carpet, more candy canes than even Rudolf would know what to do with, and the petrifying possibility that a perfect, heart-stopping New Years kiss with a Brad Pitt look-a-like might possibly NOT be in your future. Hopefully you’re left with a few spiffy new gifts too, but who can think of those at such a worrisome time of the year? This is serious emotional stuff we’re dealing with here.

So if you’re weepy, cranky, melancholy or any other unattractive emotion that turns otherwise likable people into sad-sacks around this time of year, here are a few suggestions to perk up even the worst case of post-holiday depression. Because after all, sad-sacks are not only lame to hang out with, but they definitely don’t get New Years kisses at the stroke of midnight. 

Blog it out. I’ve always thought that personal blogs were the online equivalent of the obnoxious letters that some people (you know who you are) send out with their Christmas cards, updating the world on Little Johnny’s star performance on the football field and Princess Suzy’s acceptance to Harvard. Harsh but true:  nobody (with exception to your mother and that creepy kid from fourth grade who still stalks your Facebook profile) cares about every detail of your life. I think that’s also why I have such a hard time grasping the concept of Twitter… seriously? You went to the supermarket and saw a potato that looks like Homer Simpson? Sweet, thanks for letting the entire world know, you weirdo.  But I digress. Personal blogs can actually be a pretty therapeutic way to get all those yucky post-holiday emotions out into the universe and start getting back to the normal, fun and interesting person that we all know you are. Plus, your friends and family don’t have to listen to you whine and mope. Tell it to the blog. The blog won’t judge. The blog won’t tell you to suck it up and stop ruining everyone else’s fun. The blog won’t scold you for eating an entire carton of ice cream while watching Glee reruns. Probably no one will read it, and those who do accidentally stumble upon it might not really care that you’re feeling lousy, but you’ll feel better. I promise. And if you don’t, this post has two more tips, so go try those. 

Get out and/or plan some stuff. Okay, so that’s a little vague… but when was the last time you went ice skating? Round up a group of people and plan an outing to your local rink. Watching your friends faceplant on the ice will no doubt bring a smile to even the grouchiest Grinch. Still searching for New Years plans? Don’t wait around to be invited somewhere… throw your own party! The planning will keep your mind off the naked, dying Christmas tree in the trash heap and the anticipation of your amazing event will totally alleviate your holiday hangover symptoms. 

Retail Therapy. Maybe you didn’t quite make Santa’s nice list this year and that zebra-print Snuggie you had your heart set on wasn’t under the tree on Christmas morning. Sorry. It’s a bummer that you’ll be stuck using a regular blanket without sleeves. Hope your arms don’t get too cold. But I’ve learned, through many years of research and testing, that the best gifts are usually the ones with the tags that read “from me, to ME.” So gather up that Christmas cash, search out the receipt for those crazy toe-socks that Aunt Mildred thought “looked just like you” and go get something nice for yourself… possibly at a cute little boutique with both Raleigh and Winston-Salem locations? I know of a good one…

Ah, the joy of warm arms!

Ah, the joy of warm arms!

This article brought to you by Winston-Salem’s own shopgirl-extraordinaire, Jaci Gentile.

Victoria’s Secret 2009 Fashion Show!

What more could you want on a Tuesday night than gorgeous lingerie, glitter, glam and a plethora of musical talent?

The 2009 Victoria’s Secret Fashion show has come and gone — this one possibly topping all the rest in VS fashion history.

The show featured a 140-foot catwalk, 100 lbs of glitter, 124 feet of hair extensions, and a $3 million dollar bra. (Yep, that’s just ONE bra — a 150-carat jewel-encrusted bra, worn by Marisa Miller and designed by the Italian jeweler Damiani.) The Black Eyed Peas were musical guests, and, needless to say, Fergie rocked it out.

If you didn’t catch the show on TV, check it out in full on Hulu.

Fun fact: it took over 200 hours to create all the wings you see during the show. Keep an eye out for them!

P.S. My roommates and I find that the show is best watched with a plate of cookies in tow. Just sayin’.